Have I ever mentioned that I love my kids? I might be partial, but I have some pretty amazing kids. But sometimes, I see lies creeping into their lives. Maybe it’s during my late-night heart-to-heart discussions with my 16 year-old. (See? My teenager still talks to me! I told you I had amazing kids!) Or…
One of the questions I am asked most frequently is, “When can I start dating after my divorce?” There are multiple variations: Can I date during the divorce process, even if my divorce isn’t final? Divorce Care says not to date for at least a year. Is that true? I have to be honest: I…
As I look back over the years of adultery and divorce, one of the most difficult things I had to do was to discern when to call it quits in my marriage. As a Christian, I was raised knowing that marriage is a sacred covenant between man and God, a commitment to love and cherish…
“I just can’t believe that someone like her would be interested in someone like me,” said my then husband as he talked about his mistress. As the words came out of his mouth, I remember thinking—maybe saying—“What am I? Chopped liver?” Yes, his girlfriend had been a cheerleader in high school. She had a college…
I am single…and hating it! I’m sure there are many singles who would say they hate it. They would tell about the loneliness. They might tell you how they long to have someone with whom to share their hopes and dreams. Or, maybe they would talk about the longing for a companion, someone with whom…
Do you like roller coasters? My kids LOVE roller coasters! Three years ago when my daughter was only six, we went to Silver Dollar City in Branson, MO. We stood in line waiting for the Powder Keg. As we got closer, my daughter decided she didn’t want to ride. I coaxed her onto the ride,…
These last few weeks have been tumultuous. I’ve found myself on a roller coaster of emotions as circumstances have left me reeling. I’ve sought legal counsel to figure out how to proceed. I’ve been on my knees in prayer. I’ve turned to friends who know my situation well and are always there to offer wise,…
Do you remember the story of Joseph? Joseph was a dreamer. Joseph was favored by his father. Joseph was attacked by his brothers and sold into Egyptian slavery. But, God looked down on Joseph and blessed him. The Lord was with Joseph so that he prospered, and he lived in the house of his Egyptian…
Since my divorce, the holidays seem to have become a reminder of my circumstances. As I traverse yet another holiday season, there are reminders everywhere that I am still alone. That pain—a pain of the hurts of the past, a pain of hopelessness for the future, a pain of the current loneliness—just seems to sneak…
Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. “For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to…
There are two sides to every story… It’s true. Any time there is more than one person involved, you will have at least two versions of what happened, two views of the same experience. It’s no different with my marriage and divorce. Recently, I was confronted with a situation that brought me face-to-face with “the…
Why Am I So Blessed? Last week, I received a message from a high school friend. She has been a single mom a little longer than I have, suffering a similar situation in her marriage. The message she sent me, however, was very troubling. She had 24 hours to pay her electric bill or have…